And It All Comes Down to This....

It all comes down to this. I don't know who the author of this summary of what it is like to be in a Quarter-life Crisis. But who ever you are, hats down to you. This was e-mailed to me by a friend a couple of years ago when I just started with my first job at a small advertising company. I kept this e-mail for a long time and I always go back to it to keep me sane whenever I'm about to go crazy with confusing realities in life.

I just want to share this to all of my friends who are in their twenties and thirties, and, also, to the many people who may be reading my blog right now. I know that you somehow can relate to what is written here. We're all going through a phase and I know that many of us ask many questions about so many things in our lives that sometimes it just drives us nuts. We are all in a journey of our own and being in a Quarter-life Crisis is one of our greatest times in our life to learn more about ourselves. I'll probably be quoting some of the passages here to my future blog entries for it tells so much about my journey in life right now.

Being Twenty-Something to Thirty-Something(This puts it all into words perfectly.)

They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis." It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know and may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now. You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatestpeople you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you do not realize is that they arerealizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere,but that they are as confused as you. You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you would be doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and are scared. You miss the comforts of college, of groups, ofsocializing with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't so great after all. You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want. Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doingand find yourself judging a bit more than usualbecause suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and add things toyour list of what is acceptable and what is not. You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenlychange is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward. You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lie in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyonedecent enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you are not a bad person. One night stands and random hook ups start to lookcheap and getting wasted and acting like an idiot starts to look pathetic. You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make adecision. You worry about loans and money and thefuture and making a life for yourself and while winning the race would be great, right now you'djust like to be a contender! What you may not realize is that everyone reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.